Well, next time try a chill pill... Easier said than done, I know, but the 'virtual' chill pill may serve you well. If some holier-than-thou person comes at you firing hate or judgements (which, by the way, are not holy in the first place) look at them in the eyes and take out an invisible chill pill from your pocket or pretend pocket and slowly place it in your mouth without changing the nonexpression on your face.
Perhaps you could visualize your neutralizing chill pill as a color, say a cool blue or sea foam green. This will help the pill take effect. If this ethereal medicine is working its magic, you will stand there poised and unswayed while the other not-so-chilled person finishes their rant. (And it is important to let them get it all out so they can exhaust their fuel.) At the culmination of their monologue you can say with cool freshiness on your breath, something to the effect of "I hear what your saying and I'll consider it all, thank you." Even if you wanted to jump in the ring with them like they want you to, and wrestle your point of view into their thick skull, the calm considerate words will confuse them and ultimately squelch the fight in their flight.
Yes, next time try a chill pill. Let's say you may even want to carry a tin of mints with you that you dub as chill pills. You could hold the tin in your hands and chant "chill pills, ever glorious, calming and cooling chill pills" upon them in any multiple of three, with eyes closed. Then have them near for times when you need to divert your own cortisol level from rising too high. Like in the car when you're already running late and some leisure tourist pulls out in front of you on the road. Instead of crinkling your forehead and yelling profanities that you learned in junior high, bust out your minty chill pills, take a deep breath and insert. You may still be late but teeth gritting may be lessened and your breath will smell good when you apologize for the lateness.
Next time try a chill pill. Like when your Mother-in-law is coming over for dinner and she just has to bring that yappy lap dog with the tiny bladder again.
Next time try a chill pill. Or two or five. When you're watching your child out the window teaching them self skateboard tricks in the parking lot while you're in a school meeting.
Next time try a chill pill. If you see your ex at a party with their arm around someone you both met together at the club just a week or two before your break-up, fight the urge to accidentally on purpose spill your chocolate martini onto both their laps, but instead take a chill pill. And dance like you just don't care...
Pretty soon, with enough successful chill pills, the world will be easier to digest. And taste better too.